• Significance.

    Someone once told me that they had a history teacher who said that there are 3 things we can do when we write about history.

    The first is to recall the facts. The second is to outline what these facts mean. These two steps are where most people stop, The theory goes that it is the next step that really makes the difference. The third thing that a writer can do is to explain the significance of this event.

    I find that when I am planning just about any communication I get a better result if I ask myself “what is the significance of this thing for this group of people?”

    By answering this question I think of the exchange from their perspective. This makes what I say much sharper, more relevant and more likely to inspire action.

    Luke

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  • Unraveling.

    When I change something about the way I move, when I clarify how a particular joint or movement pathway works, I always expect that the immediate result will be clarity. In the end it is. Things become smoother and require less effort.

    But in the short term things are less predictable. Sometimes it is immediate improvement but other times things get discombobulated. Changing one thing can have a knock on effect, there can be an unraveling of other movement pathways that I didn’t even know were related to the first one I changed. Or I can feel out of sorts and confused.

    Confusion is an important step in creating change. I try to embrace this and enjoy the uncertainty.

    Eventually things will sort themselves out.

    Luke

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  • How easy could this be?

    I have a funny habit of equating ‘hard to do’ with ‘doing a good job’.

    What this means is that when I care about something I find myself using lots of unnecessary energy and grinding my way through it rather than using the amount of effort needed to do this thing.

    So I ask myself ‘how easy could this be?’ and then (mostly) dial down the amount of energy I’m expending to get something done. Looking frantic doesn’t make me any more effective, quite the opposite.

    When I make it easy I move easily through the task. It becomes effortless and more effective.

    Luke

     

    Artist, advisor, coach.
    I find the real problem, make the difficult easy
    and tell a great story.

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  • The struggle for kindness.

    Do people struggle with them selves as I do with myself?

    Life seems to be a constant cycle of self-reflection upon situations where I didn’t quite live up to the standards I have set for myself. I didn’t listen well, I was too opinionated, I said something without really thinking about it…

    Probably the biggest challenge for me of living a self reflective life is the constant conversations with myself about the awkward things that I did.

    I don’t mind thinking back upon things that I could improve upon, if I don’t quite hit the mark and I can see ways to be better…well I actually enjoy those opportunities to do better.

    It’s when I got it wrong, when someone’s feelings were hurt, when I was snarky or worse said one thing and felt something else (so I was dishonest), when I was careless with someone’s emotions…it’s these times that I find the self-reflection can be particularly harrowing. I have the conversation with myself because otherwise I’m at risk of lying to myself about these situations (someone else was as fault…) and pretending there is nothing I can do.

    What I can do is feel sad that it happened and be kind to myself. Find forgiveness and examine what it is that I need to examine in order to respond differently next time.

    Luke

    Artist, advisor, coach.
    I find the real problem, make the difficult easy
    and tell a great story.

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  • When it works…

    When it works (when something I do helps me contribute to the world in a positive way, when I live in harmony with my values…) I like to share it with someone. It’s a way of making sure my conversations aren’t filled with all the barriers and problems I am facing.

    It’s not about bragging, it’s a way of acknowledging the progress I am making every day.

    Luke  

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